A friend was staring at a young, handsome guy, on suit, fair in complexion, average in height. And I asked why don’t you walk up to him and she said nah, I can’t because am crushing on him. A wow came out of my mouth involuntary, I started having different thought like, so, ladies can crush on guys until I flash back to what she said , “She can’t walk up to him”. I have to asked for the meaning of what she said even though I knew what it meant. she was like she can’t let the guy knows that she is crushing on him and she can’t ask the guy out. I was like what the hell, is it an offense for a lady to ask a guy out?
I have to make some investigations on why ladies don’t date their crush, and I found out; Ladies believe that if they date their crush, their crush will cheat on them while some have this believe that crush is not the same thing as love.
One other thing is that a lady might be only be physically attracted to the guy and she might not be interested with the guy’s personality. She may be intimidated by the guy’s intelligence and know that she can manipulate the guy as she wish. It may also due to lack of shared interests or even a lack of known shared interests.
A lady also told me one time that crushes are superficial and transient. She further said having a crush is not enough that compatibility and relationship goals also matters a lot.
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